The parent I want to be
Carlotta Cerri
–
Fondatrice de La Tela
27 novembre 2021
You often write to me: "I still have a long way to be the parent I want to be."
Actually, you already are the parent you want to be.
Sometimes I too yell and say sentences that go against my values and principles in education. But every day I choose: I choose my words, my actions and reactions. And when I’m not able to choose because emotions take over, then I choose to accept and forgive myself, and apologise: "I made a mistake, I’ll try not to do it again".
I am the parent I want to be, not because I am always happy with how I am as a mother, but because:
1. I know what kind of education I want to give and I choose it every day. It takes practice.
2. This is my current version as a parent. I have to accept it.
3. I work hard every day on my personal evolution, so today I am, in fact, a better version of myself than yesterday. It does matter.
You too are already the parent you want to be, because the fact that you think you are not means that you are working on your personal evolution. You can't ask yourself anything else than that. Keep evolving without expectations and surprise yourself.
Actually, you already are the parent you want to be.
Sometimes I too yell and say sentences that go against my values and principles in education. But every day I choose: I choose my words, my actions and reactions. And when I’m not able to choose because emotions take over, then I choose to accept and forgive myself, and apologise: "I made a mistake, I’ll try not to do it again".
I am the parent I want to be, not because I am always happy with how I am as a mother, but because:
1. I know what kind of education I want to give and I choose it every day. It takes practice.
2. This is my current version as a parent. I have to accept it.
3. I work hard every day on my personal evolution, so today I am, in fact, a better version of myself than yesterday. It does matter.
You too are already the parent you want to be, because the fact that you think you are not means that you are working on your personal evolution. You can't ask yourself anything else than that. Keep evolving without expectations and surprise yourself.
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Carlotta Cerri
– Fondatrice de La Tela
Sono la fondatrice de La Tela, creatrice del podcast Educare con calma e dal 2019 viaggio a tempo pieno con la mia famiglia Alex, Oliver ed Emily. Mi ritengo una visionaria pessimista: so come voglio cambiare l’educazione e che genitore ho scelto di essere, ma la maggior parte dei giorni mi sembra di scalare pareti di vetro. Ma forse proprio per questo so come aiutarti quando mi scrivi: perché ci passo anche io per quel disagio e ti dico le verità scomode con gentilezza e senza giudizio.